Spiritual Mentoring Information
My Training.As a graduate of the Benedictine Spiritual Formation Program offered by the Benedictine Sisters of Benet Hill Monastery, Colorado Springs, Colorado, I am a certified spiritual director. This two-year program provides training for people who believe they may be called to a spiritual direction ministry. I believe God has called me to this ministry, and that my efforts must be concentrated on doing God's will as best I can discern it.
About Spiritual Mentoring.By spiritual mentoring, I do not mean psychological counseling or therapy. If I believe thee would be better served by a therapist or counselor, I will refer thee. Spiritual mentoring provides an opportunity for thee to have time and space to explore challenging parts of thy relationship with God, in particular in discerning God's will for thy life. It is my experience that God has a will for each of us, and will let us know what that will is if we can only learn to listen.
My Ministry.My ministry is to help thee learn to listen for God's guidance on thy own. I listen, observe, repeat, reflect, counsel, but I cannot know what God is saying to thee, and I cannot know what God's will for thee is. That is for thee to discern. God willing, I may be of some service in aiding thee. I seek to facilitate thy communion with God, helping thee learn how God's leadings can be recognized and acted upon.
Thoughts on Duration.I do not tend to encourage long-term spiritual mentoring relationships. I meet regularly with people seeking counsel until that person has no more need of me, or until it is clear to me that I cannot offer any further assistance. It is my sense that this relationship should not, under normal circumstances, last for years. Spiritual crises arise, are dealt with, and then the person seeking mentoring develops their own spiritual equilibrium that does not include my counsel. Return visits as new needs arise are welcomed, however.
Confidentiality.Under normal circumstances, all conversations are confidential. I won't speak of thee to my husband, friends, or colleagues. I may share concerns or issues that I have with my peer supervision group or my Quaker oversight committee, but I will not tell them who thee is or betray any details that would help them identify thee. If we see each other in a public place, I will not mention our spiritual mentoring relationship or act in a way that would imply we have a formal relationship. If, however, thee shares something that leads me to believe thee is a danger to thyself or others, I will inform whomever I believe may need to know. Also, be aware that it is not very difficult for some people to view or intercept unencrypted e-mail messages thee may send to me.
Cost.I do not charge for my spiritual mentoring. It is a gift given freely by God and, in due humility, I must return it freely to my community.
FRIENDS, in the Measure of the Life of God wait, to guide your Minds up to the Father of Life, where there is no Shadow nor Changing. As ye do hither come, ye must know a Removing and Changing of that which will Change, with that which doth not Change, to that take heed to guide all your Minds. . . .
So here the Love of God will in your Hearts come to be shed abroad, which Love is one, and doth not change; in it dwell, and grow, and abound, that over all that, which is contrary to the Lord of Life, who ...